TDoR and the right to remember

238 Transpersons killed in this last year.
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Do you know the feeling of disbelief you get sometimes, when you find yourself in an argument that simply doesn’t make sense? Someone is pushing back against something that shouldn’t be subject to debate, and you really can’t see how or why you’ve ended up in the conversation. Surely there are some things that, even here online where people let their worst side hang out, people know they should simply let be?

Things like taking a day to remember your dead.

Transphobia isn’t a surprise. Dismissal of trans people isn’t a surprise. If people didn’t hate others because of perceiving them as trans, there would be no need for a Trans Day of Remembrance. If everyone saw trans people as fully human and their genders as legitimate as cis people’s, life would be a hell of a lot easier for a hell of a lot of people. I accept- I…

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Lessons in Fear: Finding Balance as a Trans Woman

TDOR today. Time to really remember what life as a transperson involves.
For some its worse than others.

Make Me a Sammich

Guest post by Fran Stewart

Fran is a dear friend and a great writer I was thrilled when she said she wanted to write a post for MMAS. I hope this will not be her last. ~Rosie

I started my girlhood very late. I’d reached my mid-thirties by the time I realized there’d been a mistake. Up until then I’d muddled through life as the straightest, most translucently white suburban male nerd you’d expect to see. When I came out as a transgender woman, I had a lot of catching up to do.

Fear paralyzed me in the early days: will I lose my friends? My family? My wife? Would people laugh at me in the street? Would someone beat me up for being “a he-she?”

I want to talk about a different fear today, though. I wasn’t used to one of the fundamental assumptions most women make every day:…

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Bathroom Privilege

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Zinnia Jones is a trans-advocate extraordinaire. I appreciate the message here: “Do not harrass me while I need to pee.” The mere presence of a transperson is not “harassing,” just like if someone was Muslim or Jewish, or Puerto Rican.
White privilege needs to grow the fuck up.

Reclaiming

I know “traditionalists” would say/imply that “if you were born a boy, and then one day shaved your head, that would be apropos.”

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Fortunately, I’m not traditional. I’m also at the point in my life where my expression is a choice.

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I decided to search the internet for “butch clothing” retailers. They are overpriced as can be. Period. But they tend to have suiting that buttons in the “mans” style. They usually tout their clientele as “women, dykes, lesbians, trans boys”. Not a single one listed trans women, nor the neutral “transgender” as a client base. Seems like 2013, the lesbian community as a whole would include “trans lesbians” in their ideology, marketing, etc. No.

I think I can find my own damn style. Who wants to blow $1000 on a buffoon suit? Not me. I’m fine with blazers and slacks/jeans. Girls wear those! So do bois.

I really would like to see a world where butch expression of transwomen be embraced. 

The war on queers, geographical lag of civil rights, has a long way to go in my opinion.

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